Killing Spiders: Casting Out Fear From Your Marriage

Popular speaker and author Gary Thomas tells husbands and wives if you really want to love your spouse, you have to kill the things in your marriage that irritate your spouse.  Recorded on FamilyLife’s 2016 Love Like You Mean It® marriage cruise.

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