I Kissed Dating Goodbye: Revisited

Joshua Harris, author of “I Kissed Dating Goodbye,” rethinks some of his earlier assumptions and considers how he would say things differently if given the chance.

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  • Esther

    The original book was titled wrong. Perhaps it could’ve been titled “How about start – and stop – with friendship?” or “Kiss Sleeping Around Goodbye”, but of course that wouldn’t have gone over very well in the total-denial-of-sexual-activity-Christian-culture. The heart of the book still stands, encouraging people away from the let’s-just-live-together cultural norm. What we saw in our single days was Christian men scared out of their minds to ask a woman out, expecting they’d somehow instead get to know someone better in endless group events with no risk on the part of anyone to try for something beyond small talk. Lots and lots of time wasted. Years. Some unions never happened. Some families never brought into existence. The work of the enemy is to prevent families. And then once they exist, the enemy does everything he can to deunify that family.
    But some people still manage to get married somehow! And stay married! Thank you to Family Life for the role you play in all of that.
    Sincerely, married lady, mother of 2

  • Janne

    So how do you get past what your spouse has done in their past relationships? Their parents gave no direction and still bring up past girlfriends. This girlfriend tried to get in contact with my husband. How do you get past that because I’m so against dating. I’m so against high school kids kissing or having any physical contact. I think dating is wrong-because guys who aren’t being directed or girls think that physical contact is ok. It’s all over social media, movies, songs–every song is about love…songs from way back. All about love. I now am so self conscious about myself. I think I’m
    Not enough for my husband. It’s disgusting seeing high school kids so drastically in love. That person may not be their spouse someday. Especially if they don’t treat their spouse with lovey lovey notes and behavior that are not part of your marriage anymore. I hate thinking back that my husband was so nice to someone else but in our own marriage it’s staleness

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